URR here. At the risk of sounding curmudgeonly, and somewhat ungracious, I ask something from all of you out there.
Please, do not wish me, or anyone else a "Happy Memorial Day". Memorial Day is a day for honoring the memories of all those who traded their tomorrows so that we might have ours. Those who gave their lives in action against America's enemies. It is not a "happy" day. It is day for somber reflection. Our thoughts should be with wives, mothers and fathers, brothers, sisters, children, who will spend the the rest of their mortal days bearing the loss of a loved one.
Also, don't ask how I plan to "celebrate" Memorial Day. The day is not one of celebration, but one of commemoration. And giving thanks to God for such men (and women) who gave their last full measure of devotion to the cause of Liberty.
This is not to say not to enjoy the fruits of our freedoms, spending time together with friends and loved ones. By all means, do. But somewhere, between the laughter and the smiles and the enjoyment of all we cherish, take the time to remember. Just for a moment.
Thank you.
Sort of like saying Happy Good Friday. People aren't good at reality.
Posted by: just frank | 05/26/2016 at 04:08 PM
Excellent. For the 33 men I know who died involved with Naval Aviation and my Great-Uncle Bill; who I never knew; the last of my family to die in action; with the 45th ID at Anzio.
Posted by: RJM | 05/26/2016 at 04:52 PM
Amen. One of my biggest pet peeves. It's just tacky and thoughtless, though in a naive way.
Posted by: Lance McCormick | 05/26/2016 at 09:23 PM
I also find "thank you for your service" cringe-worthy.
Posted by: Meh | 05/27/2016 at 05:37 AM
Well said.
Posted by: SFC Dunlap 173d RVN | 05/27/2016 at 06:59 AM
Our countrymen live in a fools paradise. I desire neither their congratulation nor their sympathy. All I desire is the knowing quite company of my comrades and shipmates (alive and dead) that will allow me to reflect.
Posted by: Diogenes of NJ | 05/27/2016 at 09:11 AM
In a nation with more than 300 million, many of which are completely ignorant of the meaning of this day, or the sacrifices that led to it, I am not bothered by those that misunderstand or offer a presumably heartfelt expression of good will on this day. I guess I'd rather have them ignorant but try, rather than neglectful.
With regards to "thank you for your service", my problem with that stems from my inevitably awkward reply to their sincere thanks, rather than their thanks itself.
Posted by: Esli | 05/27/2016 at 09:42 AM
Amen. Brings to mind something posted a few years ago by fellow vet Tom McCuin:
Dear USA,
Monday is Memorial Day. It is the day we honor our war dead, those warriors who gave what Lincoln called, “the last full measure of devotion.” Enjoy your barbecues, your mattress sales, and your community pool openings, but remember you do so because those honored dead made it possible. Please do not offer your thanks to me or any other living veteran. It is not our day. We came home carrying our shields; they came home carried on theirs. Memorial Day the day we raise our glasses to absent comrades. Thank me and my living brothers-in-arms (and sisters, too) on Tuesday. But on Monday, turn your thoughts to the gardens of stone around the globe. See you at Section 60.
Posted by: CI | 05/27/2016 at 09:58 AM
Memorial Day is a day of mourning.
Any mention of "holiday", "sale", "celebrate", and "happy" does not pair with mourning.
Posted by: Jerry | 05/27/2016 at 12:12 PM
The celebratory days are Armed Forces Day and Veteran's Day.
The first because while being thanked is kind of embarrassing, at least people are trying nowadays. They didn't used to.
The second because, well we made it. Let's have a drink!
The wife only mostly understands why I'm grumpy and irritable on Memorial day.
Posted by: McThag | 05/27/2016 at 03:15 PM
@McThag,
Yeah, same here.
@Esli,
I don't consider "Happy Memorial Day" making the effort.
Posted by: ultimaratioregis | 05/27/2016 at 03:27 PM
Considering, for me it is all hypothetical as, to the best of my recollection, I've never been wished a happy Memorial Day, and the whole thing is one step from false internet meme outrage anyway... The people I associate with know the difference and respect it. The people that don't are probably not the people I hang out with, anyway. That said, I'm not the holiday police and I really don't care if they were to wish me well incorrectly on that day. I don't in any way mean to disparage the day, but I've got too much real stuff to worry about than to get worked up over some knuckleheads. Now that I've typed this all up, I'll amend it to say that I've seen more people worked up over other people supposedlly observing Veteran's Day or Memorial Day "incorrectly" than I have actually seen people doing so. I don't even expect anybody to exert any effort on my behalf for Memorial Day, so I won't judge them for not doing so, or for doing so wrongly, though if it seemed appropriate in this hypothetical situation, I might make the correction. What I probably would do would be to graciously accept their well-wishes as they intended.
Posted by: Esli | 05/29/2016 at 01:15 AM
By knuckleheads, I mean those in society, not anybody posting here.
Posted by: Esli | 05/29/2016 at 01:19 AM
@Esli,
It happened to me, hypothetically, of course, twice yesterday. Perhaps living near an Ivy League college is a contributor, but it is hardly "a false internet meme outrage". YMMV.
Posted by: ultimaratioregis | 05/29/2016 at 04:15 AM
Nov. 11 is still Armistice Day to me. I don't take change well.
Posted by: timactual | 05/29/2016 at 02:53 PM
Please, do not wish me, or anyone else a "Happy Memorial Day".
Good. THANK YOU.
jpp
Posted by: vmijpp | 05/31/2016 at 06:01 PM